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Grief

Dealing with a cancer diagnosis, treatment or long-term survival issues can sometimes be overwhelming or confusing. If you're an adult patient or the caregiver of an adult patient, there are books that can help you find ways to better manage your new responsibilities. Browse the list below for books that can help you cope.

Suggested Reading - Cycle of Lives

Cycle of Lives: 15 People's Stories, 5,000 Miles, and a Journey Through the Emotional Chaos of Cancer by David Richman
River Grove Books, 2020, 376 Pages
ISBN 978-1-63299-299-4 Paperback
ISBN 978-1-63299-300-7 eBook

Cycle of Lives chronicles the lives of 15 people affected by cancer, including patients, doctors, researchers, and caregivers.  These moving stories cover many aspects of a cancer diagnosis.  Readers are able to examine a wide range of experiences and viewpoints to help them grow in empathy, and to better understand how issues affect the way people deal with the traumas that shape their lives.

For more information: www.cycleoflives.org

Suggested Reading - A Beginner’s Guide to the End

A Beginner’s Guide to the End: Practical Advice for Living Life and Facing Death
By Dr. BJ Miller and Shoshana Berger
Simon & Schuster, 2019, 544 pages
ISBN 978-1-5011-5716-5
ISBN 978-1-5011-5722-6 (ebook)

“There is nothing wrong with you for dying,” hospice physician B.J. Miller and journalist and caregiver Shoshana Berger write in A Beginner’s Guide to the End. “Our ultimate purpose here isn’t so much to help you die as it is to free up as much life as possible until you do.”

Theirs is a clear-eyed and big-hearted action plan for approaching the end of life, written to help readers feel more in control of an experience that so often seems anything but controllable. Their book offers everything from step-by-step instructions for how to do your paperwork and navigate the healthcare system to answers to questions you might be afraid to ask your doctor, like whether or not sex is still okay when you’re sick. Get advice for how to break the news to your employer, whether to share old secrets with your family, how to face friends who might not be as empathetic as you’d hoped, and how to talk to your children about your will. There are also lessons for survivors, like how to shut down a loved one’s social media accounts, clean out the house, and write a great eulogy.

Suggested Reading - I'll Be in the Car

I'll Be in the Car By Annette Januzzi Wick
Three Arch Press, 2006, 392 pages
ISBN: 0977485609

A poetic account chronicling the real-life experiences of author Annette Wick as her husband is diagnosed with, and ultimately dies from, leukemia. Poignantly, this story portrays the even greater challenge for the caregiver - finding life after losing someone so important to every aspect of who you are. For anyone who has or will experience loss, Annette Wick reminds readers, caregivers and widows - We are not alone. We all share the common thread of struggling to live again. About the Author: Annette Januzzi Wick was born in northern Ohio and now lives in Cincinnati with her son and her newly blended family. Excerpts from I'll Be in the Car were awarded Honorable Mention in the 73rd Annual Writer's Digest Competition. I'll Be in the Car was awarded Finalist, Best Books 2006 Autobiography/Memoir.

Suggested Reading - Liberating Losses: When Death Brings Relief

Liberating Losses: When Death Brings Relief By Jennifer Ellison, Chris McGonigle
Da Capo Press, 2004, 240 pages
ISBN: 0738209481

When someone dies, those left behind are expected to grieve. But, as taboo as it is to admit, not every death brings sadness. Labeled as "nontraditional grief response" by therapists and counselors, a positive reaction following a death is becoming more common, especially now that drugs and medical treatments keep people alive much longer than they and their families might wish. Sometimes we are relieved that our loved one is no longer suffering; at the other end of the spectrum, a death might finally free us of an abusive or unhappy relationship. In either case, the cultural expectation for sadness, loneliness and despair only adds to the guilt and conflict felt by many "relieved grievers."

Suggested Reading - How to Go on Living When Someone You Love Dies

How to Go on Living When Someone You Love Dies By Therese A. Rando
Bantam Doubleday Dell Publishing, 1991, 338 pages
ISBN: 0553352695

Mourning the death of a loved one is a process all of us will go through at one time or another. But whether the death is sudden or anticipated, few of us are prepared for it or for the grief it brings. There is no right or wrong way to grieve; each person's response to loss will be different. Now, in this compassionate comprehensive guide, Dr. Rando, bereavement specialist and author of Loss and Anticipatory Grief, leads you gently through the painful but necessary process of grieving and helps you find the best way for yourself.